I’m a bookworm. I developed the love for reading since I was in grade school. Sad thing though, I rarely read books by Filipino authors. Well, aside from Bob Ong’s books and the ones we were required to read while we were still studying, I’ve lacked the interest to read that genre. Over the past few years, I noticed that the support for teenage authors, especially in the Philippines, has been flourishing. But still, I think, it was not enough drive to pursue reading Pinoy-authored books.
Just last Friday, I went to the Manila International Book Fair which was held at the SMX Convention Center in MOA to support a good friend (he’s the best friend of my boyfriend). A friend and I went there to buy his new book, Seen 1:43 AM, and have my friend’s copy signed for her sister. A lot of people may actually know him, especially if you were in Tumblr in 2011 onwards. His name is Rhadson Mendoza but more widely known in the internet as Matabangutak.
I’ve skimmed through his two previous books, Pag-ibig Thingy and Pag-ibig Thingy 2.0, once or twice when we visited his house and I finished reading his Nakaraanzoned just early this year and I must say, his books have caught a lot of fans, both the ones from Tumblr and newfound ones as well. Nakaraanzoned is a novel while the first two are self-help books. But his new book, Seen 1:43 AM, is by far the best book I’ve read from him so far. Seen 1:43 AM is a novel focusing on the roller coaster ride of emotions while falling in, being in, and falling out of love. It gives hope to people and sends out the message that just because you got hurt over the relationship you thought would be for keeps, doesn’t necessarily mean that your happy ending will never be found.
Now, as much I want to write a review for the book, but since it will still be released in bookstores nationwide in November 30, I don’t want to spoil you guys (just because I finished reading it way ahead of you) without giving you the chance to read it . So I’m just going to share with you the lessons I learned while reading Seen 1:43 AM.
- A relationship needs two people with the same goal and feelings in order to last. It will not go on if it’s only one-sided. If things are not working out, it’ll be best if you both talk it out and rethink things. It’s better to let go than to continually hurt each other. Just because someone leaves, it doesn’t mean they never loved you. They did, but probably it was never the same degree as you did. Or you just weren’t meant for each other.
- It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I know not all people will agree with this. But when love does not last, it still gives you lessons. After going through that much pain, you come out as a better and stronger person than you were before. You are given the opportunity to love the right one when the right time comes.
- Distance is never a hindrance for someone who loves so much. With the growth of the social media and the development of technology, people who are in long distance relationships nowadays have it easier than those who were in the same position years and years ago. If someone really loves you, he/she will continue to make time and effort, no matter how many hundreds or thousands of miles keep you apart.
- Friends, especially genuine ones, are rare and precious gems. In our world right now, where people have become so accustomed with instantly calling “friend” someone you just accepted on Facebook, it’s rare to have friends who last long enough to see you go through different stages of your life. It’s important to have ones that will be there for you no matter what, not only during the times where you are in bliss, but most especially during the times when you are in your worst condition.
- You can’t force someone to choose you every time. We all have different ways of thinking and unique ways of coping up and handling things. Just because you’ve known them for a long time, it’s not given that you two are perfectly made for each other. People change. People get tired eventually. And sometimes, they won’t choose you in the end. If their decision is final, as painful as it sounds and as hard as it may be, you have no choice but to deal with it.
- Closure is an important thing. Whenever two people decide to call it quits, it is best if both of them have a serious talk before permanently parting ways. Sometimes, two people who never had closure can hurt the people who will be loving them in the future. What if the two of you cross paths again and all the words left unsaid and feelings left unexpressed come bouncing back from the grave you thought you buried it in?
- There is a major difference between truly loving someone and being a fool for someone. I think it is no secret how social media and people glorify the sense of martyrdom in a relationship. All the hugot lines are selling like hotcakes. Remember, it is never right to go gaga over someone even though he/she has never been loyal or completely honest. Don’t ever reason out “Mahal ko kasi, kaya wala akong choice.” because someone out there can love you completely in the way you best deserve without letting you go through all the pain and heartaches.
- No matter what happens, your family will always be there for you. I think it is really important to have an open communication and deep relationship with your parents and siblings (if any). Second to God, they will never leave you when you need them the most. They will help in keeping your spirits up and never let you lose hope.
- Never lose faith in God. Never blame Him for having a broken heart. Learn to own up to the fact that you made your decisions. It may be that He let your story end with someone, because He has better plans for you. Trust that when you let go and let God, things will unfold beautifully in His time.
- There’s always a happy ending for everyone. Happy endings don’t always mean two people ending up with each other. It may mean falling in love with someone else who will be better for you. Or it may be having the acceptance how things turned out. It may even be forgiveness and closure in the end. What matters most is that for every chapter of your life, there are lessons that you can carry as you move forward in life.
I’ve finished the book in less than a day (if you sum up all the hours, because I’ve read it in the span of two days since I had other things to do). The moment I started reading Chapter 1, I got hooked. It’s not just a book of hugot lines, it’s a book of lessons too.
So if you weren’t able to purchase your own copy of Seen 1:43AM, don’t miss the chance of owning one on November 30!
Disclaimer: Seen 1:43AM is a book I purchased during the MIBF 2015. Although the author is a friend, this post is objective, completely focusing on the book. All thoughts are completely mine.